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In this thought-provoking and heartfelt book, Paula Dannielle presents Dear Sister: There's Something Black Women Want You to Know, a powerful collection of eight letters that amplify the voices and experiences of Black women. 

Tackling topics covering their experiences, including identity, beauty standards, relationships, mental health, career challenges, and societal expectations, Dannielle weaves personal anecdotes, survey responses, and cultural insights to create a tapestry of narratives that fosters understanding and promotes dialogue.

Whether you are a sistah, sister, friend, or ally, with warmth, compassion, and unflinching honesty, Dear Sister provides a safe and welcoming space for open and honest conversations, inviting readers to listen, learn, and empathize with the lived experiences of Black women.



In a world that is characterized by division

In a country with a history of hatred and greed

Women have a part to play in healing what we inherited.

Our story does not begin at 1619

But 1619 further contaminated the story.

We were created to live above racism

To create opportunities for healing

And build communities of shalom

That starts by listening to the voices

that history has silenced.

So we are amplifying the voices of

Black Women

because there is something

we want you all to know

Not just knowing for knowing sake

But so that you can take these topics

and master four critical skills

to heal the brokenness history created

and help establish God's Kingdom on Earth

Like God intended

So Dear Sister, Come LIS'N!

Here are some things Black women want you to know

We Want You To Know...

Listening Matters

Too often, the voices of the marginalized go unheard. Black Women are what is known as the "double minority" - meaning we don't just deal with the silencing of one part of who we are, but society often tries to silence all of who we are. We need our other sisters to listen to our stories that too often go unheard because they are silenced. Because learning the posture to listen matters

Fortitude Matters

Sometimes it is hard to embark on this work because it feels unsafe. But what if reconciliation is not about being safe? What if reconciliation takes us being willing to be brave? What if reconciliation takes fortitude to move forward when it is safer just to stay where we are? Fortitude - the strength to address the uncomfortable - matters if we're ever going to have relationships that matter to God.

Truth Matters

There's an old proverb that was made popular by Chinua Achebe that says, "until the lions have their own historians, the history of the hunt will always glorify the hunter." Black women have a truth about our history and our story that we want you to hear. The history matters. The stories matter. The statistics matter. And we're ready to talk about it. Because telling the truth matters.

You Matter

When one of us is hurting, none of us are thriving. At least not as much as we could be. We are - in the words of Dr.Martin Luke King, Jr. - caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Your Black sisters matter. And YOU matter. No matter your race, it is going to take all of us to overcome racism. Your voice, your heart, and your hands matter.

While Learning About...

Black Women surveyed from all across the States contributed to over 500 statements about our experiences, our families, our professions, and more. We've taken those answers and put them into five large topics that we will discuss during the workshop. Statements like...

Racism is still very much alive!

Microaggressions are like tiny paper cuts. They sting. And after awhile, they add up.

We do not see you as enemies but we would appreciate you being an ally.

We love our families

(our men and children)

as much as you do.

Learn the difference between cultural appropriation and cultural appreciation

If you have never done the work to gain my trust, I refuse to trust your judgment!

There is not a single day that goes by that I’m not forced to think about being a black woman in America. I do not have the option of “colorblindness!"

There are cultural differences and simply asking me to assimilate into your culture is not enough to make me feel accepted.

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